Way back in 1989, a couple of casual sex researchers in the US conducted a study revealing that 70% of men would agree to having sex with a stranger as opposed to 0% of women. We know from experience that the 0% statistic from women is simply not the case. What the study highlighted was two things:
1. The social stigma that still exists denoting women who indulge in casual sex as ‘slutty’
2. The propagation of that social stigma by men who joke around together calling women who engage in casual sex as ‘sluts’
A recent review of the study in 2011 and 2012 also revealed that when it comes to engaging in casual sex, there are no differences between men and women when you control for two factors: pleasure and stigma. Both men and women enjoy sex immensely…indeed women probably gain more enjoyment then men due to their heightened sensitivity and physical sexual ability. So logically both sexes should be happily enjoying full and rich sex lives. The unfortunate reality though is that by and large people are judged harshly by society when engaging in casual sex. And women are often judged even more harshly then men by society which is plain wrong and damaging.
Both sexes want to enjoy equal amounts of casual sex but men often shoot themselves in the foot by chatting and bragging about how many women they have slept with on a regular basis.
Men are responsible
Guys, be honest with yourselves; how often have you gone out with your mates and bragged about the women you’ve met randomly in a club or a bar and slept with once or twice before moving onto the next girl? Chances are it is a lot. Now listen up; because of the unhealthy stigma that still exists around women and casual sex, every time you brag and go on record you are effectively damaging yours and others chances of convincing women to have casual sex with you.
Women will not engage in casual sex often because of this stigma (that guys propagate stupidly) and also because they might believe that the sex will not bring the perceived amount of pleasure they want. In other words they don’t believe a stranger they have just met in a bar or club will give them the required amount of pleasure they crave.
Stop the stigma? STOP THE BRAGGING & NAMECALLING!
Yes it’s great when you get laid, yes you feel like the King of the World, but if you want to have more sex do yourselves a favour; stop bragging about your conquests and stop taking the piss out of women who engage in it classing them as ‘slutty’ or ‘easy’. We’re all ‘easy’ when it comes to sex…so stop spoiling it for everyone!
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