You want an amazing sex life, and you have most of the hard work already. You have gotten your act together, fought through your nerves etc and got on this site and messaged some women. You then realised that you weren’t getting as good a response as you would like to, so you improved your profile. You got some great pictures taken, got a mate to re write your description, and things got better. You still had to message quite a few people before starting to meet people, and it didn’t quite end there! The first few people you met, it just wasn’t there. I mean this is f-buddy not some hippy website ike e-harmony, so you still slept with them and had sex. It just you didn’t like them enough to meet up and do it again. So you kept going... and then it happened! You met the perfect fuck buddy.
The new fuck buddy was pretty in your eyes. She had all the things in the right places, and there was actual vibe between you. She was someone you could get behind, I mean that literally as well as metaphorically! You started having sex, you started booty calling each other, it’s all great! Then you woke up one morning and decided it was so good, that you wanted more. You wanted to be better in bed, and you did it from a strong place. You decided you wanted to do it for you more than for her. So where do you go from here? There is a ton of information on the internet about this – and a lot of it is a bunch of baloney. Here are my top tips to making permanent sustainable change to how you have sex.
Kegel exercises
These are an absolute must. They take so little effort for the results that they can bring. They are a foundation stone for being great in bed. Kegel exercises strengthen the core muscles that you need in order to come harder, and also control when you come. Without strong muscles it doesn’t matter how good your technique is, you won’t have the strength to follow though. More on this in another article. For now, just do them.
Take your focus away from you to the other person
When we are focused on ourselves, as men we tend to come quicker. There is an old joke that if you feel yourself coming to fast to think of something non sexy – Margaret Thatcher naked on a cold day. However this also pulls you out of the moment and is not good for long term presence. So instead focus on the other person. This brings you away from yourself whilst keeping you present in the moment. If they are having a good time, you will have a better time. Trust me on this.
Consider using stimulants
I am not talking about illegal ones, I am talking about legal ones. Read more about his here and get involved.
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