There is a problem that very attractive and high status people have that does not seem like a real problem for most 'real' people. They do not get hit on very much and when they do all too often the people are either apologetic which is an immediate turn off or they are very pushy and seem fake.
So often they will in a strange way feel lonely and outside the normal group in a way that makes them feel a little confused about relationships. Of course they do eventually get into relationships with people but they choose these people from a surprisingly small pool due to the factors that I just outlined. This effect is variably effective depending on the attractiveness of the person, so bear that in mind when considering your target hottie.
OK so we know that the hotties have this 'problem' and they need someone to solve this problem for them, and that in this case is going to be you. So to achieve this we need to look at their needs and then go into how to fulfill the needs of your target of affection, so here we go:
1. Feel loved and desired
This is simple but worth stating. Regardless of attractiveness we all need to feel loved and desired. This is less important than for those with low self esteem (which some very attractive people still are) than with more confident people but it is still critical. Do not compliment them to fulfill this need simply be intimate with them and show insight into their life without seeming obsessive.
2. Feel that you do not need them, you merely want them
Hard to achieve a lot of the time but critical nonetheless. Achieve this by looking after yourself before them but not too far. This will depend on how the individual reacts due to their life experiences but make efforts to ask them to do things for you, and do not bend over to do whatever they want. There is a balance you want to achieve so that there is reasonable equality between you both and that the attractiveness gulf (if you perceive there to be one) is not an issue.
3. You don't care about their attractiveness like everyone else, it is merely a nice bonus to you
This is the clincher. The second 'problem' attractive people have is that they fear being liked only for their looks and not for their personality and so you need to play down how much that means to you without being mean to them. This means being playful and making light mocking statements to them, but remember to avoid things that they can't control, such as their body shape or voice because this can really hurt them and will hurt both your relationship and them in general. In a healthy relationship you will both be playful with each other and develop a rapport where you are trusting enough that you can play around with each other.
So in summary do not call them ugly, that is stupid, but also do not fawn over them, they are bored by that quickly and it is a turn off.
So go out there and pull a hottie. They want attention too it's just they have some specific 'problems' you need to be aware of. Good luck out there.
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