There is an inbuilt tendency that many people have to get clingy with their sexual partners. It happens to people either because it is an inbuilt character trait, but it can also happen when you haven’t gotten laid in ages. If you have sex after a long period without having sex, you can quickly become extremely clinging of the other person. This can manifest in all sorts of ways, including a real neediness or a controlling nature. You really don’t want this to happen. If this gets stronger and grows, it guarantees either at best the end of the relationship, or worst a lasting but really shit relationship where you becomes someone that you despise. So how can you help combat this?
Have lots of sex
The easiest way to combat this is to live in a world where you get lots of sex – or certainly sex whenever you want it. If you are getting laid then you never get needy or clingy – there is no need! If this one person goes, then another will come around the corner so you have nothing to fear. Having a fuck buddy is a great start, having 2 and you are robust, having 3 and you are invincible from neediness!
Understand that pushing them away will get you laid more – and harder
Your objective is to have great sex. Lots of great sex. You are looking for quality and quantity here! When you get clingy and controlling it is because you are afraid that the other person is going to leave. You are scared that they will no longer want to have sex with you, that they will go away and not come back... which would leave you without, starving in the desert of dry genitals. What you need to understand that being clingy and controlling will not stop this from happening – it will guarantee that it happens! The harder you hold on, the more the person wants to leave. It’s like a wet bar of soap, the harder you squeeze the more likely it will pop out of your hand and go flying across the room.
You need to have a gentle touch, to give the other person to fuck or flight as they wish to. If they have the full freedom to have sex and get laid, or leave, they are going to choose to have sex with you. Simple at that. Who would choose the desert over an oasis of you?
So be gentle, give them freedom, and do not hold on to anyone in a stifling way. You will keep them by letting them go.
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