For most people, sex is generally really good. Whilst you may get better at sex over time, sex is not something that most people have to work at in order to enjoy doing it. They might want to enjoy it more, so they make work at it for that reason, but for many people, it comes quite naturally. For a few people, however, sex is not that enjoyable. That is not to say it is unenjoyable all of the time, but they may have periods of time where it is unenjoyable, or they may have certain obstacles that they need to overcome in order to open the door to the boundless pleasures that sex can bring. So if you have a fuck buddy that does not seem to be enjoying themselves in bed with you, whilst your instinct may be to blame yourself which would take you down quite a negative neural pathway, instead I would urge you to talk to your fuck buddy about it. If you approach it in a non-judgemental, open way, you might find that the conversation takes you to places where you can find solutions to the problems and overcome them together. Helping a fuck buddy enjoy sex more will forever enshrine you in their mind as the person who opened their pleasure centers… if you have the opportunity to be that person you need to take it! It makes you feel like a sexual god!
Natural pain
Around 75% of women have reported feeling or experiencing pain during sex at some point in their lives. Note the “some point.” This is not regular, this is something that can happen sometimes. It could be caused by all sorts of things, lack of lubrication, becoming accustomed to the size of a man's member, some kind of health issue. If your fuck buddy is having pain, be really open to talking about it and help find the solution. They will fuck you forever for it!
Infections
Vaginal infections such as yeast infections are common enough to be considered normal should they occur. If they do occur, the solution is taking medical advice and following the guidance till it is cured. Being patient with your fuck buddy whilst they are dealing with this will pay its dividends in bed once it is sorted. Hormonal changes can also cause dryness in the vagina, and for the lubricant is the perfect quick fix.
Male pain
Men can also have pain during sex, and if they do it could also be caused by an infection, the solution to which can be found with your local doctor. Problems with the prostate can also cause pain and this ought to be checked out quickly. There could also be, ahem, what one might describe as structural abnormalities in the penis. Again, if your fuck buddy is experiencing all or any of this, being supportive will pay itself back in the long term.
Psychological holdbacks
Stress and anxiety are orgasm killers. It is very hard to reach a good climax if there is a lot going on, especially in terms of stressful situations. There are also some people who identify in a certain way which can affect their sexual experiences. People who are demisexual may only experience sexual pleasure in very few situations, such as when they feel in love with a partner. In this case, it will take time and investment to be able to help with this, and only you can make the decision to whether you feel you want to follow through.
So if you are finding that you or your current hook up are not enjoying the sex, it is well worth addressing it. Finding and fixing the problem will open the sexual doors of delight.
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