There are literally hundreds of articles both online and off about what women want in the bedroom. Yet there is next to nothing about what men want in the bedroom. Does this mean that men don’t care about what they want as long as they’re getting laid? Not at all. We went on a bit of a mission to try and redress this balance and conducted a survey on 100 men to get their opinion on what does it for them in the bedroom.
So what makes sex hot for a guy?
“Desire. The feeling that she wants it just as much as I do makes it amazing. After that it doesn’t really matter what we do in the bedroom as whatever we do, the sex is great!”
Paul, 36, IT Engineer
Paul’s testimony seems to be reflected by a number of other guys we surveyed as well.
“The biggest turn off for me is when my girlfriend considers sex a chore – like it’s a domestic task she has to deal with and get out of the way. That just makes me frustrated and not interested in sleeping with her at all.”
Alistair, 32, Personal Trainer
The general consensus we got back from the survey was that men generally want to feel that the woman wants sex more then they do. Desire appears to be more prevalent in their minds then anything else. Yet that can’t be the whole truth can it? Surely men want women to do certain things in the bedroom that turn them on?
“Enthusiasm and willingness to try different things always does it for me. I went out with one girl who wanted to always turn the lights off when having sex and would rarely want to do it during the day. I didn’t date her for very long. Then I went out with a girl who was constantly delighted when I suggested a new position or asked if I could tie her up! She loved trying new things and that just made me even hornier. I then figured out what it was about her that just made me want to shag her all the time – enthusiasm! She was so happy and ready to try all sorts that it just always put a big grin on my face. It made me feel needed and that was awesome!”
John, 27, Production Manager
John liked it when the girl was willing to experiment and try lots of different things, but again you’ll notice that he mentions the word ‘enthusiasm’ several times. Again this ‘need’ or ‘desire’ that the girl wants the man just as much as he wants her seems to be the number one priority for good sex.
So ladies, if you’re reading this right now and you’re looking to get a new fuck buddy or simply spice things up with a current one; desire is crucial. Want sex and the guy just as much as the guy wants you and you’ll most likely find yourself with a one way ticket to pleasure land.
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