There is a great force of modern society (and for that matter ancient society) that tells us that we should not have more than one sexual partner at a time and that only the monogamous bonds of a long term relationship is proper, right and moral. Any other life styles are considered vile and villainous by comparisons. Women assumed to be taken advantage of sluts with daddy issues and men misogynistic thugs taking advantage of these women.
These normative thoughts are easy to disregard in our heads and in private but the problem is that they pervade all of us and our lives and cause us to question who we are and what motivates us. I am here today to give you a couple of reminders as to why casual sex and forms of polyamory are not only healthy but right for many.
1. You May Not Be Ready For More
Ending a long relationship is a difficult process to go through for all of us, this is natural. However in the paradigm we are given by the mainstream media and society at this point we should jump right into another long term relationship and recommit or else live in sexual isolation until we are ready again. This is foolish, the human body is born to have regular sex and by all measures is better off when sexually active, so by no means is locking the door to your bedroom the right move if you are in emotional pain. Casual sex with the right communication and fuck buddy can be very healing to an ailing heart, and remind you that you are a wonderful exciting person, which is all too easy to forget after a split.
2. Live Your Life, You Only Get One
Life is too short to only sleep with a tiny number of people that you would consider marrying. Let the excitement of mutual attraction and little more take you over and rip you out of the day to day mundane that we all wade through together. Don't be ashamed to want to taste the forbidden fruit of life; sex. As long as you spread love as you go and communicate effectively with your partners getting around can make you a better more rounded person, take you to places you never imagined and boost your confidence no end. Live life and do what makes you happy, have lots of sex.
In summary sex is a great expression of human joy and harms no one in a consensual circumstances. So don't let the normal view of sex as the dirty nasty thing that no one can talk about ruin this joyous thing for yourself. As far as the deep rooted desires that the vast majority of us hold sex is one of the better ones, way above say, oh I don't know violence.
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