Is there such a thing as too many fuck buddies?

Following a cock up last year by yours truly, (2 women I was seeing met each other but didn’t know I was seeing them both – I was actually going out with 7 at the same time) I was left ‘sans sex’ for quite a while. It took me a while to figure out where I had gone so wrong. Both women told me I was a dick for not telling them I was seeing other women at the same time.

They were right.

I was a dick.

But not for seeing more than one woman at a time.

Honesty with your partners
The mistake I had made and I warn all members not to make, is that I wasn’t honest with my girlfriends. Instead of trusting them, I was stupid, selfish and scared enough to not be honest with them from the get go. It was that breach of trust that proved to be my downfall. Worse, I had taken away their open opportunity to be seeing other people like I was.

They weren’t angry at the other women. They weren’t even that angry about me seeing other women at the same time. They were angry that I hadn’t told them I was seeing other women. One actually told me that if I had been more honest with her she would’ve known where she stood and been able to explore more sexual partners. I had selfishly misled her into believing that I wanted to be monogamous when monogamy was the furthest thing on my mind!

I assumed women would be jealous and controlling if they ever found out I was sleeping around. The truth was so far opposite it gave me a huge kick in the face with its brutal honesty. Women and men both enjoy sex a great deal – women often more than men. If you’re going to be in any sort of open relationship then you can’t play by some rules and not others. By not being honest with the women I was seeing, I was trying to deny them the option of sleeping with other men.

I was the jealous one; not them.

I have since learnt my lesson and have tried to always be as open and honest with all my sexual partners if I’m not in a monogamous relationship. It is easier then you think. And women will respect you a lot more for it.

They might also surprise you by how fine they are with it.