Why has the casual hook up, the fuck buddy and the one night stand become so popular? Why do we prefer to spend hours on Tinder flicking left and right or three nights a week meeting up with different people to have sex? Is it because we’re no longer interested in long term relationships? Have we decided that monogamy is just no longer viable? Is the future just going to be a series of casual hook ups that soon fade into the fog of memory? The answers to these questions lie in looking at the average person’s day to day life.
9-5 is no longer 9-5
Gone are the days where we all punched in at 9 and left at 5. With working hours throughout the western world flexing to all hours we have become busy 24/7. Email comes through to our phones, and social media has a constant grip on our lives. It’s becoming harder and harder to switch off. Trying to pay attention to just one person at a time is increasingly difficult. As work gets busier so does our time at trying to find a boyfriend or girlfriend. We still need sex (our bodies crave it), but the work and effort at getting it within a committed relationship is too much to bear for many people. Casual sex therefore becomes a more attractive proposition. It’s not that we don’t want the connection. It’s just that sometimes we don’t have the time to invest.
We just want to have fun
Whilst it’s nice to be in a committed relationship, it’s also nice to be able to cut loose and have a little fun. Casual sex offers people an escape from the more serious task of settling into a stable relationship. It can be enjoyable and provides a bit of breathing room from the grind of day to day life.
It gives you a thrill
We trip on power and having casual sex enables us to experience a level of physical power we don’t often get on a regular basis. I’m not saying you’ll turn into a psycho dictator but you may experience a thrill from casual sex that you won’t get from monogamous sex.
It helps us explore our sexuality
Casual sex very quickly provides an idea as to what we do and do not like in the bedroom. This is because we’re less inhibited and more likely to try things we wouldn’t try with a boyfriend or girlfriend because we’re afraid about what they might think.
More sexual experience for a committed relationship
How do you get to Carnegie Hall? Practice practice practice. Good sex requires lots of practice just like anything worth doing.
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