Dating apps are getting wise to the fact that one of the easiest ways to hook up, is by meeting someone that you know through someone else, and making them your fuck buddy. There is a natural feeling of connection when you know the same people. It provides an immediate ground for common conversation, as well as giving the feeling of a mutual endorsement. When you see someone online, you have no idea who they are, what they do, if they are a psycho! If they know someone you know, a quick text will tell you if they made a rabbit stew out of their little sister’s pet as a child. This helps to move things along to the bedroom, which is really what everyone wants.
Apps are starting to use this, by incorporating your Facebook data into their matching algorithms. Dating apps will pull all your friends that you know, then bring up matches of other people that also know the same people. Some of them even display the common friends in the feed so that you can see who you both know! This is an excellent way of giving you the feeling that you might have met them before, that you both know each other through a party long forgotten.
This connection offering really works well! Hook ups have been shown to happen, more often than not, on the first date where this is the case. You can see why the apps are trying to use the data to help their subscribers now. So how can you take advantage of this knowledge?
Approach people on Facebook
You can cut out the middle man, and start approaching people on Facebook directly. If you have someone that you are “friends” with online, why not push that to the next logical step and make then a friend with benefits? That person is likely to be one of the best people that you could hook up with.
There are fringe benefits as well. With a dating app they choose the photos, with facebook there are so many photos, that you really can see what they actually look like when not selectively posing for the camera.
Use it before a blind date
If you really don’t know the person, it doesn’t matter. Stalk them a little on Facebook beforehand to create the same feeling. You won’t get as much access to data, but it is all still there.
Good luck – and have fun!
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