Another day at the office and another hotly debated topic at lunchtime. This one almost caused a fist fight between two of our best writers so invested were they in their arguments. In any case, we decided to plot the finer points of why exactly a 25 year old guy wanted to fuck the brains out of a 44 year old woman.
Experience
One 44 year old woman I know recently told me of a continuing relationship she was having with a 28 year old guy. Her main concern was that the guy was comparing her to all of his younger and (in her mind at least) hotter female friends. I decided to put her straight on a few things by asking another guy I know who has been dating a 47 year old woman – he’s 26.
Here’s how the conversation went:
Me: You’re 26. Why are you attracted to older women?
Him: I can actually sum this up quite simply. Women in their 20s tend to be A) Boring, B) Unintelligent and immature, C) Tend to only want to settle down into a relationship or marriage, D) Don’t really bring much to the bedroom sexually
Me: (long pause whilst I digest what he’s just said) Right. Er…okay so what are the top 3 things that attract you to older women?
Him: A) They know exactly what they want sexually and aren’t afraid to let a guy know where and how they want it, B) A cougar tends to be more self sufficient and doesn’t give a shit about paying for things. Women in their 20s tend to be students or starting out on the career ladder. They’re not as socially active or able to do things that a woman in her 40s can, C) Older woman tend to be much more sexual. They know what buttons to push to get you going and exploring and they aren’t afraid to try loads of different things out.
Me: So it’s mostly about the sex?
Him: Not just that. It’s more about the fact that older women know what they want a lot more then younger women. They’re more confident in their attitudes and opinions and that translates amazingly well to sex. There is far less bullshit.
Me: (longer pause) Surely there have to be some downsides to this?
Him: Yes there are. It can be a bit socially awkward as you’re both at different stages of your life. Our interests and goals will not tend to be similar. Also if they have kids that can be a real challenge to navigate either in a fuck buddy or more serious relationship. Also some older women because they have such assured opinions on the world, tend to stereotype people a lot more then younger women do.
Me: But overall this isn’t enough to stop you from being attracted to a cougar?
Him: No. Not even a little bit. I’m not a complete dick – I know it’s probably not going to be a long term thing, but I tell you this – older women can go for fucking hours and are 10 times more imaginative then younger women. Give me a 20 year old who can do the same and have her call me. Until then I’m sticking to cougar town.
Me: Fair enough. Happy fucking!
Him: Cheers Emma!
The Older Attraction
So age it seems doesn’t seem to have a barrier for the younger fuck buddy. In fact if you’re a 40+ cougar you’re more likely to attract just as much if not more attention then our younger members.
Let us know your thoughts. Next time we’ll discuss the opposite side of the coin: Why older men are attracted to younger women?
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