How important are different sex positions? Short answer: Pretty damn important!
Seriously though; women and men derive more sexual pleasure from certain sexual positions. That’s the great thing about human beings: we’re all different. So if you’re worried about impressing your new fuck buddy or you simply want to step things up a bit with a current one, then we’ve put together a short guide to some positions that will help him control his ejaculation and her find her orgasm.
Women: Best Standard Position to increase confidence
Three words: You. On. Top.
Maybe you feel insecure in the sack, or maybe you’ve just never taken the time to try something different. Whatever the reason try straddling your guy from on top. This gives you much more control over the sex putting you in the power position. He’s your toy now, for you to play with as hard or as gently as you like. Don’t be afraid to alternate speed and penetration (if the guy has a small penis then gyrating can be more effective in hitting your G-Spot then moving up and down as he’s less likely to slip out), and don’t be afraid to turn around and ride him with your back to him. If he likes your arse this will get him even more hot and horny. Finally if you want to amp it up even further, try restraining his hands with rope or handcuffs.
Men: Best Standard Position to hit the woman’s G-Spot
Maybe you’re worried you come too quickly. Maybe you’re worried your penis is too small, too big, too funny looking. Maybe you’re worried about your physical defects.
Stop worrying as there’s a sure fire way to alleviate any of those worries by hitting the woman’s G-spot. Women have far more nerve endings to hit during sex then men do and you can have a hell of a lot of fun experimenting and finding each and every one of them. If you want to try and hit the woman’s G-Spot during sex then there is a variation of the missionary position you can try. Slide your shoulders forward over hers using your pelvic areas to grind instead of thrust. This has been well researched to reveal that this technique stimulates the woman’s clitoris far more effectively then the standard missionary does. Basically your penis is penetrating whilst your pelvis is massaging the top of the vaginal wall providing additional stimulation for the woman. She is more likely to orgasm during sex as a result.
Longer lasting Sex
As a guy if you’re having trouble going the distance before coming, try alternating technique and position. The missionary position allows you more control to withdraw if you feel like you’re about to ejaculate, but doing it doggy style will also allow you to control as well. Better yet you can alternate positions once every few minutes. This can not only serve to increase your control as you can break for a few seconds before starting again, but it can also drive the woman to a frenzy of excitement – you’re basically winding her up more and more by fucking her then stopping to change and then starting again. The downside is that she might beg you not to stop when you’re doing it in one position even though you want to in order to prevent you coming too soon. Tease her as far as you think you can get away with and then screw her hard and fast when she’s literally begging you to. By the time she’s at this level, it really doesn’t matter if you come as she’s going to be pretty close too.
Legs above shoulders
As a woman placing your legs above your shoulders allows for deeper penetration by the guy. This does 2 things:
1. Provides the guy more control over his ejaculation
2. Allows for longer deeper thrusts that provide increased stimulation on the vaginal wall and heightened sexual sensitivity
Against the wall
If you’re a guy and feeling energetic, pick your girl up and let her ride you whilst you’re standing. For extra support do it against a wall which will take some of the weight off you but still provide both of you with a heightened sense of excitement.
Guys: Best position if you’re well endowed
Got a big dick? Congratulations! But just like big tits, having a big dick can cause its own problems during sex. Some women can find a big dick too painful during penetration as it often hits the cervix. So if you’re having this problem, try this:
If you’re the guy, lie on your side and have the woman lie perpendicular (at a right angle) to you with her legs parted. Now when you penetrate her, if she finds it becoming too deep or painful she can control your thrusts by holding the base of your shaft. This way she can decide how much or little of you she wants inside of her at any one point. It also serves to titillate the penis and can make the sex even more heightened.
Mix it up!
The Catherine Wheel, The Butterfly, The Splitting Bamboo…the best thing about trying new positions is that there are no rules. You can decide how far you and your fuck buddy want to take it by playing about and experimenting. Your ideal position with one partner might be totally different with another. The only way you’re going to find out is by trying them all.
And if you’re looking for more inspiration, grab yourself a copy of the Kama Sutra. There’s a reason it’s still in print and has been around for centuries.
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