Having been asked so many times what you should and shouldn’t do in a fuck buddy situation, we decided to put together some general advice and guidance. These ‘rules’ (and we use that term loosely) are intended to guide both newbies and veterans in the casual sex arena.
1. This is not love
It’s easy to forget that everyone likes to feel a warm body next to their own whether or not they’re in a relationship. Casual sex – the key is in the title – is intended to be just that; a casual connection designed to give both parties something they want physically and nothing more.
2. Avoid detailed after sex talk
You’ll be so satisfied and content after a decent fuck that it’s easy to get verbal diarrhoea and end up sharing things like ‘how many kids you want to have one day’ with your sex partner. This can lead to problems such as a) they’ll get bored and won’t want to sleep with you again, and b) if you start talking about kids etc. they might think that you want more than just a casual fling. Keep your foot out of your mouth by keeping chatting to a minimum after sex.
3. Don’t buy gifts for each other
This is a dead giveaway that you care about them more than just ‘casually’. If you do…great! (and you’ll need to discuss that with them). If you don’t, avoid gift giving like the plague.
4. Don’t stop dating
You’re here for a casual hook up, not to find your long term life partner (although if you do, who are we to do anything but cheer and say congratulations). You want sex, they want sex. You should still go out and meet other people. You never know what might happen.
5. The meaning of sex
Most people don’t realise it but sex can get pretty dull and crusty quickly when just lust is involved. Don’t let it get to that stage. Only meet up on a semi regular basis to keep the passion alive.
6. Don’t fall into traps
If one party is trying to manoeuvre the other into a ‘committed’ situation by doing things like crying or accusing you of using them…exit quickly. You’re here for casual sex, not a drama starring you.
7. Keep living your life
Don’t forget that you have things to do away from your fuck buddy. Don’t sacrifice other important areas of your life for casual sex.
8. Always protect against pregnancy and STDs
Sounds stupid, but the number of people who engage in unprotected sex with different partners is mind blowing. Be smart and wear a condom, take the pill or use whatever other method you choose to protect yourself from unfortunate consequences.
9. Have fun!
This is casual sex, not nervous preparation for a date with Beyonce or George Clooney. Enjoy it!
Add new comment