Sexting and texting as foreplay

Everyone loves foreplay. It can take so many different forms and ways, there are endless variations on how one can build up to sex. For many people, the obvious foreplay is the physical foreplay that happens before sex. Getting or giving a blow job, going down on a girl before having sex to make her nice and wet, fingering a girl to loosen her up and make her “pre-come” are all really good things to do pre sex. I want to talk about the long game foreplay, things that can be done before you are even present. For this article, I am going to be focusing on sexting and texting.7

The invention of the mobile phone and the ability to text each other has opened up a whole avenue of communication. You can send someone an instant message that, unlike a phone call, they can pick up at the first convenient moment that they are free. Whilst this originated for business purposes, this has become a huge social tool. This can also be used to build someone up to sex really powerfully.

The longer you have someone thinking about sex in the run up to it, the more that they are going to want to rip your clothes off the moment that they see you. Texting is a great way of doing this.

It is a good idea to start slow. Start with something simple that reminds them that sex is happening later. This can be anything from “thinking about you” through to “Booty call tonight – 7pm – wear heals!”. You can be as subtle or bold as you feel.

Then slowly build it up. Text them the kinds of things that you are going to do to them, the thoughts you are having about them. You want to get more and more explicit as you go along, as the hours tick down to the moment that you are going to meet. If you do it right, by the time you do meet, you won’t even have to talk to each other, you will just jump each other’s bones!

If you are feeling confident, you can also do it using photos. This can just be a selfie of your face in the morning, again getting more explicit as you get closer to the event. This should be handeled with care. Leaving things to the imagination is really important to foreplay, so try to make your photos suggestive rather than totally explicit. A girl in lacy nearly see through underwear is inexplicably more sexy than just a naked girl. This follows this rule nicely.

So next time you have your fuck buddy over for a sex date, or you have a hook up lined up, think about setting yourself up for a successful night with a little sexting as the day goes on. A little effort during the day will go a long way for the evening.